I apologize for overreacting. I've been reading this website and wanting to post for a while, but this was definitely the wrong way to do it. I've learned a lot from this forum and would hate to end up with it being people simply arguing with one another. I had a bad day too, but it wasn't an excuse. You guys are great and keep up the good work.
FORUM BEHAVIOR REMINDER!!! I Lost My Temper . . .
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I'm not so sure you did overreact, and by the way, welcome to Amback/Cigar.com. People throw around a lot of poorly worded phrases on the internet, and don't realize that the forum of the written word is a lot more blunt than sitting in a room with someone. It's easy to pop off, but when you've learned from your mistakes, as I have, the HARD way, and have resolved to accept correction, again as I have, because of learning the hard way, then certain reactions are entirely inappropriate.
I believe that the reaction you received was inappropriate. Just because you MAY have SEEMED to pop off was no reason for another poster to react in an authoritative and totally negative way. No one here, as I made sure to point out, INCLUDING me, has any platform to point to how long they've been here and use that to slap another poster down. EVERYONE is welcome, and having 50,000 posts doesn't make anyone anything more than when they walked in, IF they've acted inappropriately.
As for the departed member, I didn't know about that until after 1500 hours (3 p.m. this afternoon), and I'm not sure why, unless something happened in a private conversation with an administrator. I'm not happy that the member is departed, because the member was a frequent contributor, and a part of the fabric of the boards, but so be it.
But as I pointed out, because the behavior fit a certain PROFILE, and I have heard it through the grapevine that there is major trouble on at least one very long lived and famous cigar board, coupled with my own past experiences, I felt it necessary to use the situation as a catalyst to throw out a post about forum conduct. As I stated, the boss wants the AmBack forums to be run as a tighter ship than others, primarily because of our past experiences, and wishing to avoid the deterioration that results when certain conduct is not dealt with immediately.
I have had to learn, time and again, and relearn it here on Amback, since being a Moderator is a whole other ball game, to read and reread my posts before making them, because it's so easy to make inappropriate statements that might pass at a party, but don't work for keeping the peace on the internet.
I believe that the reaction you received was inappropriate. Just because you MAY have SEEMED to pop off was no reason for another poster to react in an authoritative and totally negative way. No one here, as I made sure to point out, INCLUDING me, has any platform to point to how long they've been here and use that to slap another poster down. EVERYONE is welcome, and having 50,000 posts doesn't make anyone anything more than when they walked in, IF they've acted inappropriately.
As for the departed member, I didn't know about that until after 1500 hours (3 p.m. this afternoon), and I'm not sure why, unless something happened in a private conversation with an administrator. I'm not happy that the member is departed, because the member was a frequent contributor, and a part of the fabric of the boards, but so be it.
But as I pointed out, because the behavior fit a certain PROFILE, and I have heard it through the grapevine that there is major trouble on at least one very long lived and famous cigar board, coupled with my own past experiences, I felt it necessary to use the situation as a catalyst to throw out a post about forum conduct. As I stated, the boss wants the AmBack forums to be run as a tighter ship than others, primarily because of our past experiences, and wishing to avoid the deterioration that results when certain conduct is not dealt with immediately.
I have had to learn, time and again, and relearn it here on Amback, since being a Moderator is a whole other ball game, to read and reread my posts before making them, because it's so easy to make inappropriate statements that might pass at a party, but don't work for keeping the peace on the internet.
I love whiskey, havnt found one I don't like yet! I love Irish whiskey, and mostly drink Jameson. I think the real problem I could ever have with whiskey is how much I like it!
As far as the topic, I fully agree with you bloof, internet forums have a tendancy to run rampant with flames which can ruin the interest for people not involved with those threads. As allways, good post!
As far as the topic, I fully agree with you bloof, internet forums have a tendancy to run rampant with flames which can ruin the interest for people not involved with those threads. As allways, good post!
I think this thread has run it's course as to it's "immediacy" and can now become a sticky. This is to serve for general purposes, and any relation to persons public or private is purely coincidental.
Well, that's not up to me, he wasn't banned by me, or because of me, and as long as people around here don't go playing tough guy with each other, especially new members whose families are going through massive tragedies, there's very little that's going to get you banned around here.
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I have put it in the hands of Alex Svenson as to whether or not he wishes to have jihiggs reinstated. If he decides to bring him back, then it will be done. If not, then the matter is closed.
It is in the hands of the moderators as to how the forum is run. The admins are here to support the moderators. For the members, it is important to follow forum policy. They are in place for a reason. We don’t want this forum to go the way of other cigar forums on the Internet. Many of us came from such forums and can attest that they are out of control. Here, we do our best to make the site a comfortable place for friends to hang out and new people to join in. But again, forum policy must be adhered to. If not, it is upon the discretion of the moderators to enforce policy.
It is in the hands of the moderators as to how the forum is run. The admins are here to support the moderators. For the members, it is important to follow forum policy. They are in place for a reason. We don’t want this forum to go the way of other cigar forums on the Internet. Many of us came from such forums and can attest that they are out of control. Here, we do our best to make the site a comfortable place for friends to hang out and new people to join in. But again, forum policy must be adhered to. If not, it is upon the discretion of the moderators to enforce policy.
Fernando Coelho said:
I am still trying to figure out which rule Jihiggs broke. As far as I can tell, he just responded to someone who basically told him to shut up. He didn't say it in a bad way either. He first put his foot down and made it clear that no member has the right to tell him what he can or cannot say and then he went forward to explain his comment and even apologize if it was taken incorrectly. Maybe he said something worse directly to someone in charge via PM but from what I see on the board, he didn't break any rules.
I am sure that Alex will have Jihiggs reinstated but if this is all there is to it, I don't think he should have ever been banned.
This is not intended to stir up controversy or incite a response. It is just my opinion on the matter based on what I have seen.
